It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons, causes, but you will do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interest and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its many ways.

Sometimes, hopefully, at least once in your life the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you take hold of it, celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dreams we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on. When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, then try desperately to reclaim the love that it is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were difficult, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what was happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery. You need to know this about love and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just doesn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and your didn’t love him, feel  honored that love came and called at your door; but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage;  do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all your hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooser you.

All you can really do is accept if for all. It’s a mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought  it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, and they begin to look at love  as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of love filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own reason, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it , or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives, and give it away when it comes to you. But it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and will always be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment. Keep your heart open, it will come again.

                    -Kent Nerbarn

Three things in life that can destroy a person-
1. Anger
2. Pride
3. Unforgiveness

Three things in life that you should never lose-
1. Hope
2. Peace
3. Honesty

Three things in life that are most valuable-
1. Love
2. Family & Friends
3. Kindness

Three things in life that are never certain-
1. Fortune
2. Success
3. Dreams

Three things that make a person-
1. Commitment
2. Sincerity
3. Hard work

Three things that are truly constant-
Father-Son-Holy Spirit

There is an overwhelming feeling

of love that fills a mothers heart

whenever she stops and thinks

of what a miracle her children are to her life

and how absolutely wonderful

her life is because of them.

All parents feel a special

kind of endless love for their children,

yet there is no way for a child ever

to comprehend the depth of that love

until the day comes

when they are parents, too.

A child is a miracle that never

ceases to be miraculous.

A child is full of beauty

and forever beautiful.

A child is loving and caring

and truly amazing.

Time will pass by,

And so many things will change,

But the absolute joy

that a child brings to life

will only grow deeper

and more important.

                                    — Deanna Beisser